Everything is an Opportunity

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Do you remember that 2008 movie, Yes Man? It’s about a down-on-his-luck loan officer (played by Jim Carrey) who promises to say “yes” to every opportunity that presents itself – no matter how silly or outlandish. Of course, Carl takes this promise to the extreme and all sorts of hijinks ensue before he ultimately realizes that he can, in fact, say “no” when he needs to.

But the overarching message of the film is a good one: When you open your mind to possibilities, everything is an opportunity.

I’m only using the movie plot as an illustration; I actually got the idea to write about this topic from a remarkable woman named Marcy Lambert-Pellegrino, whom I recently interviewed for my Remarkable Women podcast.

Marcy is the epitome of someone who sees everything as an opportunity. She owns two companies, hosts a podcast, is in the midst of writing a children’s book, and even has a TV show in the works!

In my discussion with her, Marcy mentioned how her recent move to Florida from New York City had been a challenge. She was used to the fast-paced, creative world of NYC, where new ideas and projects lit a fire under her on a regular basis. She said she missed the energy that came from collaborating frequently with other creative people.

Fortunately, Marcy is passionate about choosing a positive mindset, about having her own perspective and owning it. In fact, as a creative empath, she helps people to do that through her Facebook group (Love, Light, Energy), as well as through her businesses. This is what helped her to push through the slump that came with moving – by connecting with people all over the country who shared her same energy, and by seeing the opportunity in a difficult situation.

Next time you’re faced with something like this, follow Marcy’s sage advice. Look for the opportunity – even when you think it can’t be there. Opportunities present themselves in the unlikeliest of ways. We may find a new friendship, a key lesson, or an important insight or idea. If we expect the opportunity, we will usually find it!

Beautiful, Remarkable People

the-most-beautiful-people-we-have-known-are-those-who-have-known-defeatThere is no doubt about it. Life is hard. All kinds of daily struggles exist: health, finances, family relationships, natural disasters, etc. Sure, there is a range in degree, but for the most part, I’ve seen that everyone is dealing with SOMETHING.

The amazing thing to me is how different people respond to those struggles. Some complain about the mildest issues, and others shore up their courage and strength to weather the toughest storms.

It’s those people who struggle, dig deep, endure and thrive who are the most beautiful! They are truly remarkable women. Sometimes they don’t even realize how beautiful they are because of it. They inspire us all to step up. To care more deeply and linger a little longer.

If you know someone who’s gone through a personal struggle and come out on the other side, make sure to let them know how remarkable they are. Sometimes we don’t see that in ourselves and need someone else to point it out for us. You could send them a card out of the blue or a thoughtful gift, or just take them out for coffee. But make sure to let them know how beautiful and remarkable they are – from the inside out!

Remarkable Women Staying Healthy

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I talk a lot about being remarkable – about doing remarkable things and going for your dreams. I think we all know that drive, passion, and perseverance are essential ingredients to this type of success. But what we often forget about – myself included – is the importance of healthy living.

There’s an old saying that goes, “Without your health, you have nothing.” It may sound trite, but trust me, it’s true. It can be so easy to get caught up in our lives and ignore our health. But all the accomplishments in the world don’t matter if you’re not well enough to enjoy the fruits of your labor.

As remarkable women, we must make time for ourselves. Here are a few necessary ways I recommend incorporating health into your lifestyle:

Workspace
I’ve learned that shaping a workspace to meet our physical and physiological needs really does matter. You want a workspace that connects with your personal goals both in terms of career and a healthy lifestyle. I personally love signs of all sizes and tend to gravitate toward those with inspirational messages.

Aside from adding inspiration, you can make your workspace healthier with a few simple modifications. For instance, replace your chair with a balance ball, get a personal water cooler to remind yourself to drink eight glasses a day, or use an ergonomic keyboard.

Diet & Nutrition

When it comes to diet and nutrition, remember that you’re not aiming for perfection. There are many ways you can improve your eating habits without starving yourself or crash dieting.

For one, take time to enjoy your food; really chew every bite, and don’t eat in rushed or stressful situations. To avoid unhealthy snacking or microwaving frozen dinners, plan out nutritious meals ahead of time. If it helps, use a meal delivery service like Blue Apron or Hello Fresh.

Focus on quality of ingredients and eat organic foods whenever possible. Don’t have time to get to the grocery store? Take advantage of online grocery delivery – whatever you need to do to avoid ordering unhealthy takeout. Supplement your diet with probiotics to improve your digestion. 

If you’d like direction and support to make these changes, consider a 30 days to Healthy Living Program that one of our Remarkable Women leads.

Fitness

This is going to be a tough one to hear, but you can’t ignore physical fitness. If you don’t already, make a cardio workout part of your daily routine. A 30-minute workout is all you need to keep your heart healthy and strong. I’m not saying you have to join a fancy gym or get a personal trainer. Just find something that is convenient and enjoyable for you, whether that means going for a run in your neighborhood, swimming at the community pool, or buying a treadmill for your home.

The key to good fitness is consistency. Make it routine. This has been a tough pill for me to swallow; it’s so easy to dismiss my daily workout for any number of reasons. But I’ve realized that on the days I work out, I feel happier, I feel accomplished, and I sleep better at night.

Mental Health

Health is not just about our physical well-being. As much as we try to plan ahead and juggle all the balls of business, family, and relationships, life can still get out of control with unforeseen changes or inherently busy seasons. That’s normal. But when it feels unbalanced, we can often lose a sense of peace and perspective.

I’ve come to learn how important it is to enjoy “me time”. Giving yourself a time out is very important. That is why I don’t feel like it is selfish to take that short trip to treat myself – or do whatever it is I want to do in order to feel refreshed.

When life gets out of balance, you may also want to seek out those friendships that are fulfilling. Schedule a coffee date or long-distance phone call. Be honest about how you are feeling. Good friends tend to always have the perfect thing to say at just the right moment.

What are your go-to tips for staying healthy?

Gifts She Will Love

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You know what I love? Giving gifts! And not just giving gifts, but giving remarkable gifts that people LOVE to receive. For me, choosing a gift for a friend is a personal challenge that I’ve been working on for years. I challenge myself, time and again, to delight my friends and family. Over time, I’ve honed my wisdom and develop tried-and-true techniques that really work.

Here are four go-to ways you can use to find gifts she will love:

  • Get her something you already know, use, or love. This gives you personal experience and credibility. Share a story as to why you love that particular gift, and why you thought she would as well. If it’s something that suggests an activity – like a set of colored pencils or a yoga mat – try doing the activity together!
  • Choose unique. Skip the mall gifts and the brand names. Instead, find a few custom brands that you love and support those smaller businesses by purchasing your unique gifts for friends from them. Or, find an older treasure at an antique market or vintage store. Your recipient will feel that she received something custom, unique, or rare. Plus, most people also really enjoy supporting local or smaller businesses. It’s a win-win!
  • Create something. The most special gifts are the ones you create yourself. That’s why I began offering customized, remarkable gifts like the Remarkable Women Wall Hangings Collection in my online store. These gifts are meant to inspire and help you remember what is most important in life. In the same vein, you can customize practically anything – a coffee mug, journal, notepad, mouse pad, refrigerator magnet – just as long as it’s something she sees on a daily basis. Every time she looks at your gift, she’ll remember the special thought you put into it.
  • Spend time together. Just being together doing ordinary things can be one of the best gifts. Use this precious time to do all the things she puts on the back burner, like painting her nails or catching up on her favorite TV show. The sky’s the limit when it comes to experiential gifts. Here are just a few of my ideas: Going to the zoo, wine tasting, museums, galleries, concerts, trivia nights, antiquing, and the list goes on. As long as the experience is relaxing and enjoyable, it will be a great gift for your girlfriend.

I just love unique and uplifting gifts. And I know this from experience, because I’ve both given as well as received them. What remarkable gifts have you loved?

 

Remarkable Women Podcast – Bahar Picariello

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IMG_9086Bahar Picariello is a Remarkable Woman living in Sterling, VA. She is a woman who has overcome many challenges and cares deeply about helping other women do the same. She does it all! She owns her own business and homeschools her two children – all as a single mom! She is the first to say that it requires great sacrifice and lots of hard work, but she cares enough to make it happen.

She knows what it’s like to have the rug ripped out from under you and can understand the challenges other women may be facing. Bahar is able to come alongside and help individuals rebuild and figure out how they can make their life better, even after hitting rock bottom.

She is known as a professional make-up artist and image consultant, but even deeper than that, she really seeks to help women get to the core of who they are so that they can feel confident in allowing their true personalities to shine. She wants women to feel comfortable in their own skin and to know which tools they can use to present themselves in the best way possible. We all know that this confident aura affects the way opportunities unfold for us.

Bahar gave us an awesome success tip that made me want to take action right away! Have you ever had someone suggest a fabulous idea, but life “got too busy” to really do anything about it? She would say, “Don’t let that happen again!” If we really want to see growth and change in our lives, we have to be willing to seek out the resources available to help us accomplish that goal. Sure, it takes time and financial investment, but any good thing is worth it! Don’t delay. The clock is ticking!

Bahar would love to connect with any of our listeners. You can find her on Social Media on Facebook and Instagram, and visit her website at BeautyTangent.com. She offers consultations for anyone seeking to enhance their initial impression, prepare for a public event, or seek that deeper growth in beauty from the inside out.

Risk It

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Eleanor Roosevelt once said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” As you may know, I’m a big fan of Mrs. Roosevelt. So many of her sentiments ring true for me, including this one.

Could I have created Remarkable Women without a dream? No. Could I have done it without believing in that dream? Certainly not! Could I have done it without risking failure? No way.

When I was a kid, every day was an adventure. I never knew what was ahead, but I knew I wanted to grab life by the horns. I was so ready to grow up! Can you relate?

When I did grow up, I faced many obstacles – high school, college, the dreaded first break-up, the “dream job” I yearned for, and so on. That’s when I realized that growing up is hard work. With the freedom of being an adult comes risk and responsibility.

Here is my favorite part about real growth, though: There are no limits. Growth is not just about our age; it’s about our character and personality. We get to become better versions of ourselves every year – every day, even. Fortunately, I learned this pretty early on. I learned that growth is good, and the only thing standing in my way was myself!

Though I already had a decade-long career in real estate, I didn’t feel completely fulfilled. I didn’t really know what I was looking for, or what was even out there, because I had just stayed in my comfort zone. I could have let fear guide me, just as I had so many other times in my life. But I decided to get out of my own way and get to the other side of the fear.

So, I took a leap to allow possibility to feed my soul – and it started with something so simple: a casual meeting with a friend whose energy I loved. That one conversation opened my eyes to new possibilities, and it led me to creating a physical space – “a remarkable space” – where I could continue to explore my wants and needs.

Little did I know at the time, that space led me on a journey to creating Remarkable Women and the blog you’re reading right now.

The moral of my story is this: When we get out of our own way, there’s no telling where we can soar. When we embrace risk, every day becomes an adventure!

Women Finding Happiness

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Would you describe yourself as a happy person? Do you find yourself chasing happiness only to find that when you’ve arrived, it is fleeting and dissipates quickly?

Join us for the third and final podcast in our series, “Are You a Fierce Woman?” with life coach and author Cindy Battino as she shares keen insights around these questions. It has been such a treat to meet with Cindy to discuss “Women Feeling Enough,” and “What Does It Look Like to Be Fierce” in our previous interviews, and this one sure felt like a grand finale in this trio series!

I’m sure every woman will walk away with a special takeaway from Cindy’s insights. She dispels four myths that we all seem to believe in our quest for happiness. She reminds us that we are the only ones responsible for our happiness. We can’t give that power to someone else because they don’t know what to do with it! It has to start and end with us. In doing so, we learn that happiness is more of an inner choice and commitment versus an emotion based on outside circumstances or people.

Cindy encourages us all to choose one small thing to try to start doing in our pursuit of happiness and offers us five ideas and many concrete suggestions around each idea.

For example, she says that we should “Own what we’ve been given.” God made us all, and He doesn’t make mistakes. So each of us are perfectly imperfect, and we should allow ourselves the compassion and confidence in order to accept it. If we are Type A, driven, risk-takers, own it and go after your goals with fierceness. If we are careless dreamers who are periodically late or “messy,” own it and embrace the creativity and freedom you offer the world. Learn to accept a compliment graciously, and stop apologizing for the perceived “negative” aspects of your personality. They are part of the whole package that makes you uniquely you!

Cindy has a history of helping and teaching others in a powerful way. She is a life coach, dancer, personal trainer, speaker, author, and life changer. She encourages a positive and intentional life for her clients and helps them discover truth in safe environment through compassion, love, and acceptance.

She has a special program called, Love is a Verb that would be a perfect fit for any listeners seeking to embrace a new level of happiness and purpose in their lives. It’s a journey that requires a tribe of loving supporters. She is offering this 10-month program at a special rate for our listeners at $74.99/month (normally $99) and encourages you to grab a girlfriend or two and embark on the journey together. Contact her here and make sure to mention this Remarkable Women Podcast for the discount.

Taking Care of You Podcast

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I feel incredibly lucky that a young age I heard the message of the importance of taking care of yourself. It really resonated with me and has stuck with me ever since. While it has not always been a popular viewpoint, I think research is showing just how foundational this mindset is. If we take care of #1 (ourselves), then we have the capacity required to take care of #2 and #3!

Cheryl Piper-Snyder joins us again for this Remarkable Women Podcast to speak to this very topic. She is a business and life coach and spends a great deal of time helping people understand the brain, heart, and mind connection so that they live fully into their potential, both personally and professionally.

She shares several insights around these ideas that I think all our listeners will find valuable.

Do you think reality is objective?

Cheryl would argue that it is our perceptions, our own responses that define our reality. “Nothing in life has any meaning other than the meaning we give it.” If we ponder that for a while, and come to agree with it, we should feel more control over our situations. We get to choose how we perceive and internalize an event, conversation, or circumstance.

Most people allow their subconscious to repeat a negative script.

She shared a sad statistic – 75% of most people’s thoughts are negative! How do we allow that to happen? And better yet, is there a way to change that stat??!! Cheryl offers some great suggestions that help our brains create new pathways and habits. You’ll want to listen in for these!

Taking care of yourself looks different for everyone.

What do you, in all of your uniqueness need to fill your cup, to release that stress, to refresh your heart or get your creative juices flowing? For some people it is time outside, for others it is regular time with friends, or for others, it is intense physical work-outs. Figure out what you need to take care of your body, heart, and mind and make sure to do those things each week.

Some of us could really benefit from having a coach help us change our negative scripts and adopting more of a “growth-minded” script. This is part of what it looks like to “take care of you.”

If you are interested in something like this, you can reach out to Cheryl at alchemyholisticlifecoach.com, and keep an eye out for some new online tools she will be offering to help declutter our minds and live more fully into who we were meant to be.

Remarkable Women Podcast – Naheed Oberfeld

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naheed oberfeldNaheed Oberfeld is a Remarkable Woman from Rockville, MD. She has had a full career of working as an analyst, at the NASDAQ Stock Exchange, as a consultant for Ernst & Young, and now as a business coach in her own company. I really enjoyed connecting with Naheed and hearing her journey to pursuing something professionally that she truly enjoys.

Today, she gets to combine her Psychology degree, her experience in Corporate America, and her own experience and training with EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) to really help people uncover the things that may be blocking them from achieving all of their dreams. She works with business owners and executives and gives them the tools they need to figure out how to work through their “blocks.”

During our interview, Naheed shared great wisdom that she learned from her own challenges. During her 30’s she had been driving so hard, that she came to a point where she knew something would break down emotionally or physically at the rate she was going. She learned the importance of prioritizing a beautiful balance between work and family life and decided to maintain that balance as much as she could and sought out new tools to do so. We spoke a lot about a woman’s need to appear perfect, or to put on a positive show. Naheed walks us through the faulty beliefs that trigger those emotions and suggests some steps in gaining freedom from the need of others’ opinions, whether positive or negative.

This was a most unique Podcast for Remarkable Women listeners in that Naheed actually walks us through a unique experience during the Podcast – an “Inner Journey Exercise” where she guides us through a powerful visualization technique in an attempt to uncover any underlying faulty beliefs. This is not an exercise in self-judgment. On the contrary, we just want to look at our emotions and triggers honestly so that we can deal with them and then release them and let go.

You’ll want to listen in so that you can walk through the exercise for yourself. If you’d like to connect with Naheed personally, she welcomes it. Her website, Oberfield Coaching is a great place to start.

Remarkable Women Podcast – Marcy Lambert-Pellegrino

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marcy lambert pellegrinoMarcy Lambert-Pellegrino is a Remarkable Woman living Tampa, FL. Marcy is a busy creative, owning two companies, Sassi Creative Agency and Two Girl Productions, hosting a Podcast, and enjoying her family. She is used to the fast paced, creative world of New York City where she used to live and always has new ideas and projects in the fire.

Marcy is passionate about seeing people choose a positive mindset, about having their own perspective and owning it. She helps people to do that as a creative empath, through her FaceBook Group, “Love, Light, Energy,” and through her businesses, particularly Two Girl Productions which helps athletes and entertainers with their branding and PR. She and her best friend Kate, even have a TV show that is in the works! In addition, she is writing a children’s book for kids with OCD, ODD, and ADD/ADHD. She is one busy woman!

Moving to Florida recently was a challenge for Marcy. The slower paced life was relaxing for a bit, but she was missing the energy that comes from collaborating frequently with other creatives. Thankfully, she was able to push through the slump by connecting with people all over the country who shared her same energy.

Marcy shared two pieces of key advice with us:

  • Everything is an opportunity – Even those situations that don’t always look like it initially. They may offer a new friendship, a key lesson, or an important insight or idea. If we expect it, we will usually see them.
  • Trust your instincts – It steers us well. We just have to believe it even though our brain and logic may be telling us something different. Don’t do something out of fear. Trust your gut.

You can connect with Marcy via LinkedIn and her website where you will find more information about her Podcast and upcoming projects. She’d love to connect with you!