Dr. Carleah East is one Remarkable Woman. As a Clinical Psychotherapist, Licensed Mental Health Counselor, Psychology Professor, Author, Speaker, Wife and Mom, she juggles much every day. After listening to her speak, though, you can see how. Her energy is infectious and her passion for helping others drives her. She created The Sapphire Woman as a way to encompass all of her pursuits and to help women, “reclaim their power, embrace their truth, and design their destiny.”
Dr. East and I could have spoken about people and relationships for hours! Today, we focused on how to handle friendships that we may have outgrown. It’s not an easy thing to acknowledge and hold onto the “power” that each of us can own for ourselves. It’s hard enough figuring out how to break free from the strong messages given to us from society at large. It’s trickier to stop any negative scripts when they are part of our closer network of friends or family. But sometimes it’s necessary when we start changing our perceptions and thought processes for what we want for our own lives. Like Dr. East says, sometimes we may need to “put certain friends on the shelf.”
We also talked through some ideas on how to process those bumps in the roads in friendships. Sometimes it’s not about us or our battle. Sometimes it’s theirs, and we have to lower our expectations for the relationship temporarily and meet them where they are because we care about them. There is no need for hard feelings. But it does take a certain presence and awareness to be proactive in the friendship instead of being sensitive or reactive.
Dr. East is full of great insight and wisdom. She shares much of it in her book, The Hangover, 12 Steps to Emotional Sobriety. Many of us as women are not aware of how we connect ourselves to people and the consequences – good or bad – of that. This book helps women heal from emotional addictions and focus on growing themselves, knowing that they can feel perfectly imperfect all by themselves. They can move towards emotional freedom and greatness.
Her one success tip for us is:
Don’t let others define you for you are your own definition.
Connect with Dr. East
Dr. Carleah East would love to connect with you. You can find her at The Sapphire Woman, on Facebook and Instagram and Twitter at @TheSapphireDiva. She’d love to work with you or your organization as a guest speaker, coach, or counselor.
And remember, “You are great today, just as you are.”